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Hey! I'm Dr. Matt Townsend.
Over the past 20 years I have worked with over 10,000 couples…
Many have come to me when they were at the END point…
Divorce papers filed… ready to end their marriage.
Or maybe even worse are the couples that aren’t headed towards divorce…
THEY ARE JUST FLAT OUT MISERABLE
Headed for a life with no growth, no excitement, no passion…
Of all the couples that have come to me with divorce papers in hand,
About 80% are still
But what’s most interesting is that they are…
How is this possible?
How do you take 2 people that are at a standoff and transform their marriage into one of ultimate happiness?
There are 3 things that I teach my clients... when these ideas are understood,
You aren’t fighting a fair fight… MOST of us were never given the actual tools and techniques we need to make our marriages successful.
The biggest killer in our marriages is DISTRACTION — The fighting and complaining and avoiding distracts us from EVER getting down to our issues.
All of the issues that are starving the love in your marriage boil down to a lack of 7 BASIC NEEDS IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
The first 2 we have to skip for now (but you can learn more about them below)
But for now I want to talk about #3...
IS YOUR MARRIAGE STARVED?
Think back to your wedding… I'm guessing you had cake, right?
Have you noticed that when couples are supposed to
be the most in love with each other...
They cut the cake and then what??
They feed the CAKE to each other, right?
This isn’t just tradition… this is actually a powerful SYMBOL.
(More on the meaning of symbols in our marriages later)
What does this symbol represent?
We aren't supposed to just selfishly feed ourselves the cake...
WE ARE SELFLESSLY FEEDING
IT TO OUR SPOUSE.
Having worked now with THOUSANDS of marriages, I can tell you that many couples have stopped feeding each other... they're not giving the 7 basic needs of every healthy relationship.
When any of these 7 things is missing, we say that the marriage is STARVED.
THE 7 NEEDS OF A HEALTHY MARRIAGE
Ask yourself if one or more of these is missing in your relationship... If so, you're probably feeling "STARVED."
Now, doesn’t it make sense that if any, or a few, or ALL of these things is missing in our marriage that we’ll have problems?
So what happens when any of these are missing?
The basic rule is that STARVED people, STARVE people.
SMALL things become BIG things.
Thoughts of ending it...
For some, their marriage COULD show problems of infidelity… or money issues… or a clash of beliefs… or fighting over in-laws… or arguments about sex, or even fighting over lettuce (Yup that’s a real one… we can talk later)
But it probably comes down to a COMPLETE COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN.
That’s actually the most common thing couples say when they come see us…
“We just can’t talk anymore…”
"She just doesn't get me..."
"He never listens to anything I say..."
“We’ve grown apart…”
“We can’t agree on anything…”
"I just want what we used to have..."
We teach communication skills.
Well, to be fair, we teach skills that help couples do 3 things:
How To Get REAL With Each Other
ACTUALLY UNDERSTAND Each Other
Resolve Issues From a Place of PRINCIPLES, Not From Our POSITIONS
If you are interested, I want to peel back the curtain and show you exactly how I have done this for over 10,000 couples from a strategic (and fun) level and show you how to create an inspired and well-fed marriage.
The first lesson is about smoke and fire… And it will change EVERYTHING in how you and your partner communicate.